I adorn myself with original jewelry, always have. When I was younger and the guy I was dating asked me, “What do you want for your birthday?”, I’d answer, ‘JEWELRY’! But left to his own devices I soon discovered that a man who does not understand a woman’s expectation of a gift of jewelry is rarely in line with my own vision. The necklace, bracelet, whatever, it was often was a token, as in, something very tiny. Very delicate. Of course I would say a gracious thank you upon receipt, but my heart wasn’t in it and I never wore it. I am not a delicate sort of Queen. I am a QUEEN of magnitude, originality and I enjoy having something no one else has. What’s the point of being original if you’re wearing a popular trend or your initial encrusted with rhinestones around your neck? So no troll beads for me, think of the name…TROLL. I don’t care what story they come up with for some overpriced piece of glass…it’s a TROLL BEAD.
And those bitsy little Me & Ro pieces? I bought one in a weak moment when I thought humbleness should be a virtue practiced. I purchased a delicate little square of gold that has the word “compassion” written in Tibetan script for $500. While I love it, it’s lost on me. You can barely see it! What’s the point?
I like statement pieces. Jewelry that says, “Whoa Mama, where did you get THAT?!”
I covet jewelry that is made of shiny metals: silver, gold, copper. I want my stones of quartz crystals to be pure, untouched. I want to feel the energy of real and semi-precious gems next to my skin. I want the design to MEAN something. I want to feel empowered when I wear it.
I once received a tiny silver dragon pendant, and by that I mean I needed a microscope to magnify it 100X’s. I looked this guy in the eye and actually said, “Are you kidding me?” He wanted to know if I liked it. I replied that it would look great hanging around the neck of one of my porcelain cats you get from the Red Rose Tea box. I was insulted that this guy thought that I was worthy of a millichip of silver stamped with some barely recognizable image.
It’s not lost on me how this sounds. It sounds ungrateful. I have this to say about that. To be empowered you must ask for what you want. You must speak up and state your true feelings. Are there ways to do it gracefully? Sure. Am I graceful? No. I am an Aspy, remember?
Early on I recognized the weakness of the men in my life to truly understand what jewelry of empowerment meant. So 99.9% of my coffers of treasures have been purchased by myself, or have been given to me from other women, who also value jewelry of purpose. Their own collections are quite impressive, and may be one reason they are part of my tribe. We get each other.
I have a couple of jewelry artisans listed on my “Business IS Personal” link to the right of my posts. I don’t receive commissions. I’m not promoting these artists because I know them personally. I just want to direct you towards the path of empowerment.
We all have jewelry thrown in a box that we will never wear, or are “saving for that special occasion”. Don’t apologize for disliking a bracelet, ring, necklace or earrings given to you as a gift. Recognize your empowerment through stone, metal and originality.
Purchase it yourself and wear it well.